Maybe you’ve been living with the same dysfunctional relationship, and you sought outside inspiration in order to re-ignite the missing sexual spark from your life. Or, maybe you just happened to run into someone hotter than your partner, and they seemed to like the idea of having sex with you. Or maybe your partner was unfaithful towards you, and you sought an affair in order to get even with them. Whatever the case, you have had an affair with a person outside of your relationship, and this is now bringing you a considerable amount of guilt. Well, we won’t take too much time in absolving your guilt, since you knew exactly what you were getting yourself into when you jumped in bed with that other person, and this guilt you’re not feeling is just part of the deal. However, if you’re looking to break the affair before your partner finds out, there are a few basic pointers that we can offer you.
Your strategy on casual dating sites was too effective
So, while you were in a serious relationship, you decided to try your hand at using some casual dating sites. Well, it turns out that your playful strategy on casual dating sites was far too effective for your own good, because it worked, and you now find yourself in the unfortunate position you’re in now. You really should have toned down your excessive charm during those online chats, because, as it turns out, you really know how to make the ladies flock to you. There’s no need to panic, we have all the information you need here, and we’ll make sure that you know how to end your affair without your partner finding out.
You are deciding to end your affair
First, you must examine the reasons why you are deciding to end your affair. Has the sex with your other friend gone stale? Has it lost its spice? Or are you too overwhelmed by the sense of guilt to continue the relationship any longer. Whatever your reason may be, you need to discover it first before you proceed with any sort of action in this matter. Dig deep into your soul, and figure out why you want to end this affair. Only after that can we proceed in the most optimal way.
Be discreet until the very end
You were so good at beginning discreet throughout the entirety of your affair, now it’s time to be discreet for the last stretch, as you work on finally ending your affair. This part is absolutely crucial; even though your intentions are relatively good in opting to end your affair, those good intentions won’t count for anything at all if you get caught sneaking around as you try to wrap the external relationship up. It was very important for you to move carefully and cover your steps as you were conducting your affair, now it is even more important for you to proceed with complete stealth as you make the move of ending it.
Everyone makes dating mistakes
Hey, don’t be so hard on yourself. Everyone makes dating mistakes eventually. In your case, you just happened to make the common dating mistake of having an affair. By which we mean, you made the mistake of sleeping with an outside partner before you made the move to break off your serious relationship. You have the right to make mistakes like these — you’re human, after all. Maybe you feel the sting in your heart that represents a cheater’s guilt; maybe that pain is further amplified by your own personal memories of being cheated on by a partner in the past. Either way, we hope that you learn from this key dating mistake, and that you don’t make the same one in the future.
Is your relationship worth saving?
This is a question that we can’t really help you with. You need to take some time alone in the dark and really mull this one over. Is your relationship worth saving? Only you know the answer to that. How much do you love your partner, and how much do they love you? How much guilt are you carrying for having cheated on them? Can you really live with keeping them in the dark concerning your brief affair for the rest of your life? These questions, and a whole slew of other questions, first must be thoroughly answered before you choose to take any further steps. Look your partner right in the eye, or if you can’t do that, at least look at a clear picture of them. Think long and hard about your relationship worth them, and decide whether or not it is worth salvaging at this point.